Dear Gay Man,
A few weeks ago I met a really nice guy online. We chatted over text message for about a week before we set up our first date. Our first date was nice: dinner, then back to his place to watch a movie. As we were watching the movie, we did the whole thing of getting close to one another (he put his hand on my leg, I put my hand on top of his, etc.) nothing, special in my opinion, but it was nice. I’m not looking for a guy to randomly hook-up with, and he says that he isn’t either. The date ended with a kiss, which was nice; especially since he didn’t try anything else, which would have been a turn off for me—so soon. He came across as really sweet.
But, after the date, he became somewhat distant. I know he works hard, and can’t text at work, so I’d wait until I knew he was off work before texting him, but then it’d take him for what seemed like forever to reply. Then, he started asking me to send sext messages to him. Of course, I did, against my better judgement. So, then after the sexting, he becomes distant again. He seems to think that sexting is hot. I don’t find much pleasure in it, but to each his own. I’d really like to see this guy again, because he’s really nice, and so far he doesn’t come off as a total jerk. But, the constant requests for sexting just makes me think that he’s really not interested in having an actual relationship, and that he’s only interested in chatting when he wants new sexting material to look at.
Is this normal? Should I cut my losses? Or is there something I can do to get this man interested in going out on a second date?…
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